Self help

Take a pause, if you must! It’s Okay!

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So you have been working day in and day out, if you are a student you must have been occupied with planning up and catching up with academics and social life as well, whoever you are reading this now, no matter what profession or age span you are in, please note that you deserve a life to live and not just breathe. It is very human to feel overwhelmed sometimes due to our constant working schedule and no time for ourselves, or not having any “me time”. It’s Okay! It does not make you less efficient as an individual in any sense. Please understand this thing because if you do not understand this and continue thinking negatively about the way you are feeling, it will only add up to your mental exhaustion even further. In order to thrive in life you will need to take a pause. The most important step is not just this but what comes later will define the efficiency of taking this pause!

If you have been feeling low and you feel like taking a pause for some time but you don’t know where to begin, let me help you out with just simple 5 steps that will ensure that you refuel yourself well to make a fresh start again with new energy. However, there is just one  Condition i.e., you have to do the action- my dear friend. I wish I could do it for you but it’s just not how life works! no other way but to start implementing today.

The following are the 5 steps:

  1. Get comfortable at the moment no matter what!
  2. List down 5 things that you used to enjoy doing but had to leave due to your busy schedule-
  3. Attend to your physical self
  4. At work, Identify a designated space and time when you can attend to yourself alone.
  5. Doing Nothing makes sense as long as it serves your mental peace.

What are you going to pick up from these to refuel yourself? what more suggestions can you add to this? Do let me know and thanks for visiting the blog. Do share it with others if you found this useful.

Additionally, here I am sharing this freebie video and presentation with you all, hope it helps.

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Refuel yourself and achieve your goals!

Take care, Stay calm, and stay energized!


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Navigating Through Difficult Emotions

Strategies For Emotional Well-being

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Life is a rollercoaster ride that takes us through a whirlwind of emotions. While the highs bring joy and elation, the lows can be challenging to handle. This directly impacts our emotional well-being. So, to restore our sanity we need effective emotion regulation. We all face difficult emotions at some point in our lives—whether it’s anger, sadness, anxiety, or frustration. It is very natural and you will be relieved to know that within each of us lies the power to manage these emotions effectively. For effective emotion regulation here are some practical tips to help you navigate through difficult emotions and come out stronger on the other side.

  1. Acknowledge and Accept: The first step in managing difficult emotions is to acknowledge their presence. Recognize that it’s okay to feel upset, angry, or sad. Emotions are a natural part of being human, and denying them only prolongs their grip on us. Once you’ve acknowledged your feelings, accept them without judgment. Embrace the fact that it’s alright to experience these emotions and give yourself permission to process them.
  2. Breathe and Ground Yourself: When overwhelmed by intense emotions, it’s crucial to take a moment to breathe and ground yourself. Deep, conscious breaths can help calm your nervous system and bring clarity to your mind. Additionally, grounding techniques such as feeling your feet on the floor, focusing on your senses, or visualizing a safe place can help you find stability amidst the chaos.
  3. Seek Support: Don’t underestimate the power of human connection. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist who can lend a listening ear and provide guidance. Sharing your emotions with someone you trust not only helps lighten the burden but also provides a fresh perspective on your situation. Remember, you are not alone, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.
  4. Practice Self-Care: Self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity, especially when dealing with difficult emotions. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax. For example, taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or indulging in a hobby. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is vital in maintaining emotional balance.
  5. Reframe and Redirect: Often, difficult emotions arise from our interpretation of events or situations. Try reframing your perspective and challenging negative thoughts. Look for alternative explanations or focus on the positives within the situation. Additionally, redirect your energy towards productive outlets. Engaging in exercise, creative endeavors, or helping others through volunteering can help channel emotions in a constructive manner.
  6. Cultivate Gratitude: Practicing gratitude is a powerful tool for managing difficult emotions. Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for. It could be as simple as the warm sunlight, a cup of coffee, or the support of loved ones. Shifting your focus to gratitude helps rewire your brain and fosters a positive mindset, making it easier to cope with challenging emotions.

Managing difficult emotions is an essential skill to develop. By acknowledging and accepting our emotions, grounding ourselves, seeking support, practicing self-care, reframing and redirecting our thoughts, and cultivating gratitude, we can navigate through difficult emotions with resilience and grace. Remember, difficult emotions are temporary and you possess the strength to weather any storm that comes your way. You don’t have to do all this alone and you can always seek help from a professional too if you face difficulty in taking a start.

As the great philosopher Marcus Aurelius once said, “You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength.”

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The Power of Self-Healing: Unlocking Your Inner Potential

In a fast-paced world filled with stress, uncertainty, and constant demands, the importance of self-healing cannot be overstated. Self-healing is the process of nurturing and restoring our physical, mental, and emotional well-being, allowing us to tap into our inner potential and lead fulfilling lives. By taking proactive steps to care for ourselves, we can cultivate resilience, reduce the impact of external pressures, and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery. In this article, we will explore the concept of self-healing, and delve into its numerous benefits, so that you can kick-start your own self-healing journey without any further delay.

  1. Understanding Self-Healing: Self-healing is an innate ability we all possess. It involves recognizing and addressing imbalances within ourselves, promoting harmony, and fostering a state of holistic well-being. It encompasses various aspects, including physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual healing. Self-healing empowers individuals to take charge of their own health and wellness, leading to a deeper understanding of their bodies, minds, and emotions.
  2. Benefits of Self-Healing: Engaging in self-healing practices offers a multitude of benefits that can positively impact every aspect of our lives. Here are a few key advantages:

a) Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Self-healing techniques such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, and mindfulness can help alleviate stress and anxiety which promotes a calmer state of mind.

b) Improved Physical Health: Practices like regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate rest contribute to improved physical health that boosts energy levels and enhances overall vitality.

c) Enhanced Emotional Well-being: By nurturing emotional intelligence and developing healthy coping mechanisms, self-healing aids in managing emotions effectively, leading to increased happiness and emotional stability.

d) Increased Self-Awareness: Self-reflection and introspection are integral to the self-healing journey. They enable individuals to gain deeper insights into their thoughts, emotions, and behavioral patterns, fostering personal growth and self-discovery.

e) Empowerment and Resilience: Self-healing cultivates a sense of empowerment, enabling individuals to take control of their lives and build resilience to face challenges and setbacks.



Welcome to my first blog post

Hello and Welcome to my first Blog Post !

By Inara Counselling| 02 May 21’| Mental health and self-improvement | By Ayesha Ali, Counselling Psychologist

Welcome to my new ‘Inara Counselling’ website & my first blog post! My name is Ayesha Ali, Founder of Inara Counselling, and as part of my profession, I provide non-judgemental support for adolescents and adults through counselling and Psychotherapy. I am so excited to share with you MORE of what Inara Counselling has to offer! But first I wanted to start by telling you why I created this blog, what you will be seeing more of in my posts.

   Why did I create this Blog?

Since I started getting referrals for counselling in 2019 and having started freelancing, many of my professional colleagues and friends have asked me why don’t I share my expertise with a larger audience? Why don’t I create an online space where I could share knowledge and provide a virtual platform for people enabling them to book counselling consultations from the comfort of their home, conveniently?

Well, as a Psychologist in practice and working too I could barely find time to write and learn about websites and blogging but I did realize the importance of this medium to reach out and make this service accessible to many more people than just referrals. To be honest, I, for a much longer time until now thought that writing a blog is just extra work and Counselling is all about just meeting clients one on one, that’s what matters! Well, I was wrong! After constantly being encouraged by my friends and supporters along the way, who have been very kind to genuinely advise, I have become so inspired to start a blog and create a website. I have finally understood the significance of it and especially now view it as a part of my professional duty to expand counselling service from one on one to online and make it accessible to all. Especially considering the current pandemic situation, I believe that every qualified therapist on earth must do that. Thanks to technology!;) Help is certainly not far & is just a click away!

What you will be seeing more of in my post?


Well, Psychotherapy, counselling and organization will be the main theme of my blog, but not just that as you will also be seeing many other helpful topics relevant to mental health care that are practically implementable in life and will further help you to grow psychologically and find your emotional independence. We all know that how badly this pandemic has hit us in different ways, it is very natural to sometimes require such support which gives us a glimpse into the way forward from wherever we are stuck due to either daily stressors, environmental obstacles, or simply due to a mental block. That sure is one of my intentions to enable it through this blog.  Also on some days, you will get a glimpse of the face behind Inara Counselling(i.e., me presenting something valuable hopefully) and a mixture of wit & humour ( who says psychologists are always serious!), my favourite – must-haves as self-help resources, and other interesting inspiration to follow & more. I have been into writing but I am not perfect at it. However, I am sincere in whatever  I express. I observe things and love to share reflections that are not necessarily facts ( when I will state facts I will definitely quote the link though) so there will be a mix of research-backed content for understanding mental health better and a few of my  observations as a professional psychologist  ;)) which I am sure you will find interesting to read. I hope to inspire you all and with this blog, I am looking forward to bringing you a more balanced way of living life & healthy perspectives which if implemented by anyone can positively change how they feel and behave in any situation.

There are lot of things which are not talked out specially in Indian society due to the taboo or stigma and kind of judgmental attitude that people have in general. Well, it can be due to many reasons, not being aware is definitely one of them.So, if you want to open up about mental health issues that you or anyone you know is going through and you want to reach out or even just read and learn more about the same then this is the right place. 

Are you stuck at home in the lock-down but need to talk to a professional for stress, anxiety , depression, or any other issue that’s bothering you and not allowing you to function properly at work or home? Do you want a space where you can express your mental health concerns,  are listened to with compassion and without any judgement?  You can consult a mental health expert for consultation here: Contact Us.

Have any suggestions on topics that you would like to know more about through this blog in future? Please use the comment section below and let me know!